Why I Don’t Really Enjoy Typical Vacations

Just slightly more than 2 weeks ago, we flew to Bangkok with Mrs 15 HWW’s family (parents and younger brother) for a short vacation. Bangkok is a top tourist destination, and for good reason too. Thai food is really delicious and flavourful (although pretty unhealthy), there’s plenty of sightseeing in the city and the nightlife is vibrant with night markets and uh-hum… interesting shows. And most importantly, all these can be done on the cheap since cost of living is pretty low (at least to tourists coming from developed countries).

So I must have had a hell of a time there, right? Actually, it would be a stretch to say that I thoroughly enjoyed this 4D3N trip. Yes, the coconuts and mangoes were really delicious but amazingly, besides foodstuff, I didn’t buy anything else! And obviously, this lack of enjoyment has nothing to do with the company too (my dear wife, pls don’t be upset when you read this). Here’s some reasons why I ain’t a big fan of the typical vacation:

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It is costly

We went through Chan Brothers for our flight, airport transfers and accomodation arrangements and this set us back by $490 for each pax (let’s ignore the travel vouchers used to offset the amount). That’s not a small amount and this is for a destination as near as and supposedly as cheap as Bangkok.

Admittedly, we didn’t fly budget (took Thai Airways instead) and stayed in a pretty posh hotel. But even for a savvy traveller, these fixed costs are still likely to run up to at least $250 for each person. So yeah, even if I get to eat and shop like a king (with $50) on those few days of stay, you’ve got to realise that it’s really rare for the both of us to spend more than $500 over two weekends, not to mention one. Comparatively, the cost of travel and accomodation is likely to be close to zero if we had stayed in Singapore, no?

The experience is not so different from Singapore

We are supposed to learn more about the world and other cultures when we travel. After all, Singapore is just a small red dot in the world map. And this card is often played up to justify the huge amounts spent on vacations.

However, most Singaporeans prefer to go to city centres like Bangkok and Taipei, where we just spend time eating and shopping, activities that we already do pretty often in Singapore, no? And somewhat unfortunately, most of the dishes we tried in BKK doesn’t beat the ones found in Ah Loy Thai located at Shaw Towers. In addition, it’s rare for stuff bought in Bangkok’s Chatuchak market to last long.

Significant time is wasted on commuting

Using our trip as an example, the whole trip took about 84 hours. 10am on a Friday night to 10pm on the next Monday. If we exclude the 24 hours for sleep and washing up, we are left with 60 hours.

You might think that out of these 60 hours, only 4.5 hours are spent on the flight.

But then how about reaching the airport 1.5 hours in advance to check in (3 hours), the round trip to Changi Airport (1 hour), the round trip from the airport in Bangkok to the hotel (1.5 hours) and the time spent to check out of the airports and collect the luggages (1 hour). All these add up to 11 hours, which is  a significant 20% of the total trip.

Those times might actually be wonderful if you enjoy duty-free shopping but too bad that I don’t. And seriously, those traffic jams in Bangkok induces headaches.

I come back more exhausted

Because there is only 50 hours left, the mantra is that you shouldn’t waste it. Coupled with the fact that there’s so many malls, shops and eateries, one is even tempted to sacrifice rest and sleep to be able to conquer them all!

To be really honest, I was often looking forward to meal times and even created extra tea sessions to have a place to rest my tired legs and feet after the incessant walking and standing in the many malls. And this creates an additional problem: overeating. Ugh…

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Before you think that I am a grumpy old man who has lost his zest for life and adventure and simply can’t appreciate his good fortune that he is able to travel, let me clarify that it would be totally wrong to say I hated the trip. There were times when it was really fun and the food was good. I especially enjoyed the massages. But it would probably be fair for me to say that I didn’t enjoy it enough to actually want to trade it with a weekend and a day of leave plus $1,000 for the both of us.

I still remember those days when I was always excited about vacations, when the alternative is staying at home for another week during a 2 month school holiday. But since starting work, it has been a busy few years. The few day offs are generally spent planning for the wedding, the renovation or going on these hectic trips.

Therefore these days, staying at home seems more fun!

A swim in the morning followed by a leisurely lunch. Reading a good book on my recliner and then taking an afternoon nap. And ending the day with a specially prepared home-cooked dinner. Even if staying at home doing all these would set me back by the same amount as that vacation, I would still take this!

So does that mean I won’t travel much anymore? Slower travel is the answer since it should eliminate most of the concerns I have listed in this post. Not only would it be a better experience, it would also likely reduce the impact on our wallets if we could just have a 3 month trip every 2 years.That doesn’t seem remotely possbile now, but the money saved from reducing typical vacations should help to accelerate the realisation of my ultimate goal. So guess it should all work out soon? We shall see……=)

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    13 thoughts on “Why I Don’t Really Enjoy Typical Vacations

    1. Spectra

      Haha! I totally feel what you have typed! Going for trip to cities like BKK and HK can really be a exhaustive experience instead of rejuvenating one. I used to look forward to short trips during my undergraduate years to these cities repeatedly, but now I try to cut down the frequency so as to save up to travel further and longer.

      But my the other half tend to love shopping, so have to compromise~ 🙂

      1. My 15 HWW Post author

        Hi Spectra,

        Yeah, compromise is the word. Even though my thinking has changed quite drastically in the last couple of years and I am moving away from the typical consumer mindset, I am still ok with accompanying the lady to window shop occasionally.

        It helps that she doesn’t buy stuff that often so I am even happy when she manages to snag an item. =)

    2. SGYI

      Your this post caught my attention as i’m a travelling freak. haha

      The whole fun thing about travelling is the planning stage. The most expensive cost on the travel is definitely the airfare and the hotels. If you can reduce that, you can spend a whole lot more when you’re there itself. I spent only $705 for a 8 days Taiwan trip and i travelled out of Taipei city into the mountains and valleys which Singapore doesn’t have. It’s much more relaxing for those kind of trips. You can read my post about my taiwan trip here: http://sgyounginvestment.blogspot.sg/2013/09/my-8-days-taiwan-trip-all-under-800.html

      I guess 4D3N is really short. It’s a bit rush here rush there. Longer trips of more than a week are definitely better as you can plan it on a more relax pace.

      1. My 15 HWW Post author

        Hi SGYI,

        I think some research about happiness says that the anticipation part (before buying an item or going for a trip) gives us the most joy.

        We also went to Taiwan a year back but spent slightly more than you. Have to admit that was a much more enjoyable vacation. But even so, I am much more interested in longer stays in order to experience the place and live the life of locals. =)

        1. SGYI

          Hi 15HWW,

          Longer stays sounds great. I hope to go backpacking and enjoy the local life for many many weeks. haha. Blend into their environment. That would be interesting. I went to Vietnam for 3 months on my internship in Poly. It’s an unforgettable experience.

          Maybe we can travel together. 😉

          1. My 15 HWW Post author

            Hi SGYI,

            I haven been to Vietnam so if you ever want to be a guide, I might be game! You can speak the language?

            I would advocate students to take advantage of potential opportunities to stay in a foreign country for a few months because Singapore is seriously an anomaly in this world.

            1. SGYI

              Hi 15HWW,

              I don’t have to be the guide. I can hire a tour guide. haha.. Normally how i travel to Vietnam is take a plane there and book a local tour through their local tour agency. It’s really really cheap and all inclusive. I already know which are the agencies that provide good and trusted service. Don’t mind forming a group to tour together. 🙂

              Staying in a foreign country enables us to broaden our views. Especially if we stay for awhile in third world countries do we really cherish what we have now. Singaporeans sometimes take for granted of what we have now.

    3. B

      Hi 15HWW

      Maybe plan your itinery a little different next time to BKK with a little pingpong or Tiger show without your wife? heheehe just kidding.

      Usually I would prefer to travel to nature than cities. Maybe time has changed or my time has changed!!

      1. SGYI

        I prefer to travel to nature for sightseeing too. Somehow i like going to third world countries as i can experience a whole lot more of a different culture from city life. Those travel are even cheaper too. Vietnam is one of my favourite countries. Hope to go to more exotic countries in the near future. 🙂

      2. My 15 HWW Post author

        Hi B,

        Honestly, I have not watched one before, even though I have visited BKK twice in my army days. And I doubt I will watch them because I find it rather distasteful? =p

        I prefer cities with nature just at the corridor! Best of both worlds? Haha.

      1. My 15 HWW Post author

        Hi Victor,

        Thanks for your blessings. Would try to avoid the pool of sufferings as much as possible and I wish you all the best too!